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What you say?!

Hello my loves! How are y'all doing? I hope that you've been working on yourselves! Practice makes perfect! Well not perfect, let's just say practice helps you get better. Have you ever listened to yourself? I mean really listen to what you say and how you feel after you've said it?  Did you feel accomplished, empowered, or icky? I came across this quote on twitter, "If you really want to understand your secret/silent thoughts,  pay attention to what comes out of your mouth, thought-word-deed is the process." I believe that this quote came from my fav,  Iyanla Vanzant.  This quote caused me to think...if I really want to know my true intentions behind anything that I did,  I needed to pay attention to what came out of my mouth, because what comes out of my mouth is what I've been thinking. Sometimes we (humans) like to think that we are actually kinder and more authentic that what we truly are and this is because we don't experience ourselves. I'm using the term experience to mean that we aren't always on the receiving end of our own communication; we are most of the time communicating with others and not just ourselves. (even though I do talk to myself and I'm pretty sure you have too, lol) Have you ever stopped to think about how you made someone feel? Think about the last time you talked with someone face to face, were they smiling,  frowning,  or looking confused. Our body can sometimes act like a factory; manufacturing actions (deeds). Our hearts come up with an idea for a product, our brain thinks of ways to start production,  and our bodies produce the finished product. Our bodies produce what's in our hearts. If your heart is jealous, hateful, or proud, then your mouth and actions are going to say that,  no matter how you try to cover it...it always shows. Don't think that you're hiding it so well because you don't verbally say what's in your heart, your actions always speak louder.  Take some time to think about what you're doing and why you're doing it. If you want to know what truly lies in your heart,  pay attention to what you say and do. The only way that we can change our lives or situations is by changing ourselves.  The only way for this to work is to be honest with yourself. You are the only person in charge of your growth,  so take the time to grow!  Until next time loves 😙 Live well. Love hard. Laugh harder.

Xoxo,
Shonie

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