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Slow Down...Moving Too Fast

Hey my loves!! I've been super busy lately. Planning parties and schoolin' and such, it's birthday season in my family. All of our birthday's are in June and July so you can imagine all of the running around we do during this time, lol. I missed blogging so I'm back lol!!! I wanted to write about rushing things. I've learned so many lessons about rushing things that need time to grow. Sometimes we put time restraints on things that don't necessarily need them. When I was in high school I already had my life planned out. I said I was going to graduate college in 2012 (which I did), I also said that I was going to be engaged or married by the time I was 24 and have my first child by 26. Well, I'll be 24 in a few days and I'm neither married nor engaged lol. Now it is great to have a plan because you can use that as a guideline to what you want but keep in mind that your teens and twenties and even thirties are years of discovery so things are bound to change. So even though I'm not married/engaged doesn't mean that I've failed my plan or anything. That's still apart of my plan but now there's no age limit. The Shonie I was when I made that plan is a totally different Shonie now. I not only think differently, I act differently. I realized that putting an age limit on being married caused me to do certain things to make sure that came true, I was rushing the process. Lol I now believe that marriage is a journey, one that you can't prepare for fully but there are some requirements... love, romance, commitment, trust, same values, surprises and a prince charming, etc (I still believe in fairy tales). I can't rush into all of those requirements, I might miss something and end up with a shoulda, coulda, woulda face. Everything needs time to build and to make sure that it mixes and meshes well. Now, that's just my example of me rushing things that need time to grow, yours may be rushing to a job, school, friendship, relationship, or big decision. Sometimes it's important to take a step back from everything to be sure that we aren't rushing things. It's very easy to get caught up in everyday life and miss the part that we are actually supposed to be living. Take the time to explore yourself and what's going on around you. Knowing where you are in your life is very important, pay attention to the season you are in. There are certain things that you are supposed to do in your season but you might miss it if you are trying to rush through it. So let's slow down, take time to actually live, and let things flow. We might be getting in our own way. Til next time, Live well, Love hard, Laugh harder...


Xo,

Shonie

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