Hello my loves!! How have you been? I hope you’ve been
well!! I’ve missed writing you all. I’ve been super busy!! (As always) Anywho!
Over the past few weeks, I’ve had several conversations with different people
about relationships. I guess when you’re in your 20’s this is one of the top 10
topics of conversation…idk. Well, I guess I would know because I’m 25 and this
seems to be what most of my friends want to discuss. They’re either looking for
love or trying to figure out if their current relationships are ones that will
last. I’ve had a few of my friend girls come to me for advice on some brand new
relationships that they were in. Now, I believe that the beginning of a
relationship is very important and there are a few key things that you should
pay attention to. I came up with a list of a few things that I think will help
you determine if He’s Into You or Nah lol!
1. Does
he genuinely seem interested in getting to know you? The beginning of a
relationship is for exploring. Is he trying to find out your likes or dislikes
or does it seem like he has his own agenda and wants you to just basically be
in awe of him, listening to him go on and on about his accomplishments etc.? (if
so, run)
2. Does
he introduce you to his friends/family/associates? Because you guys should be
going OUT of course.(if you’re not, consider leaving this one alone) Let’s just
say that you’re out at dinner and someone he knows comes by your table to say
hi…does he introduce you or act like you’re not there? It’s ok if he introduces
you only by your name, relax, there will be plenty of time for labels later.
3. Does
he make time for you? Now, this is important. Someone who makes time for you is
really interested in you. Does he text/call you asking if you’re busy or if you
have plans because he wants to get together or are you always the one making
plans for the both of you? Believe me, being the one that makes the plans all
the time gets old really fast. If you’re important to him enough, he’ll make
time. PERIOD.
4. Is
it easy for you to talk to him about anything? This is also important because
good communication lays a health foundation! Do you find that your conversations
flow and that he’s actually listening to you when you speak? (because I just
recently found out that they DO indeed listen lol only if they want to,
however) Or is it hard to talk to him because he seems uninterested in what you
have to say?
5. Lastly,
what do you feel when you’re around him? Listening to your body is so important.
It’s a tool that we sometimes take for granted. Are you excited when you’re
around him or are you nervous or uneasy? (Excitement is good, it means that
you’re happy to be in his presence, just make sure that the feeling is
reciprocated) Do you feel safe
physically and emotionally when you’re in his presence? ( It’s important to
feel safe with him because emotional abuse is just as damaging as physical
abuse)
So my loves, the beginning of a relationship can
basically tell you a lot about the person you’re with. If you find that he’s
not into you then let it go before you get tangled in the web of emotions and
feelings (you’ll end up staying way longer than you need to). Well, until next
time! Live well. Love hard. Laugh harder!
XOXO,
Shonie
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