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Birds of a feather

Hello loves!!!! It's been such a long time!! I feel like I haven't blogged in forever!! I have been so busy!! School, work, and practicum this summer kept me very busy! I have to figure out a good time for me to blog and actually do it (time management, I need to work on that lol).   Today I want to talk about your space and the people you allow in it. Over the past few weeks, I've done some reflecting over many different topics and one of them was my space and who I allow in my space. Now, I'm not talking about people I'm around at work or at school, but people who I actually have a choice in whether or not I hang with them. There are people who motivate you and bring out the best in you, there are those who only feed the negative parts in you (yes, we all have some negativeness about ourselves; gossiping, hating, bullying, etc. those parts.), and those that bring nothing out of you...they aren't helping or hurting so there's no growth.  It's very important to pay attention to who you regularly talk to. If you're constantly talking to or around someone who's always putting down someone or something, you need to reevaluate that relationship. You could become so used to all that negativity that you began to see negativity all the time and you no longer see the good in people or things any more.  It's very easy to see the negative and become a negative thinker, it's also very hard to undo all of that negative thinking. We are human so,  what we feed ourselves is what we produce.   Sure you say,  "well my friends don't control me". And sure they don't,  but if they are constantly pulling one way and you're pulling another, your body will get tired and either conform or resent.  You'll either give in or have a constant attitude when you're around them.  T.D. Jakes said, "You need to be around people who have your rhythm but you must understand who you are to your core being to find your rhythm. " Don't allow people in your space who aren't helping you grow positively.  Reevaluate some friendships and relationships, NO! I'm sorry, reevaluate ALL of your friendships and relationships.  Take some time to learn about yourself and associate yourself with people who are similar to you. Great things come from people who have similar interests that work together towards a common goal.  Do the work. Be the best you and demand nothing but the best from those around you. You may have to distance yourself or let go of some relationships all together,  but that's okay,  everyone isn't meant to travel with you on your journey forever.  :) Live well. Love hard. Laugh harder.


Xoxo, 

Shonie

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  1. UnknownAugust 5, 2014 at 1:28 PM

    Great message Shon I'm going through this process right now!

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