Hey my loves!! How are you?! :-) I hope you're doing well! I wanted to ask you a question, kinda make you think for a moment.... what do you want? What do you want out of life, relationships, love, yourself, others? What do you want? Iyanla Vanzant (one of my favorites) wrote, "Very often, we only have chaos in our lives because we don't know what we want. By default, uncertainty attracts uneasiness. " This statement was very powerful to me because it spoke to the uneasiness I was feeling at that present moment. I did not know what I wanted... out of ANYTHING! I had a clue or an inkling but nothing solid. I needed to figure out what I wanted and make it plain, to myself and others. By me not knowing how to or what to do to figure out exactly what I wanted, caused so much confusion in my life. Unnecessary arguments and unnecessary headaches. I had to take the time to sit down and figure out what I wanted. Granted, I'm still young and what I want may very well change but, I needed to start somewhere. I started to think about what I wanted to accomplish and how I would reach that goal. I also thought about certain situations that made me happy and others that made me sad or even angry (I don't like angry Shonie lol). I decided to participate in more activities that made me happy and separate myself from the ones that didn't. I'm not suggesting that you become an avoider but you have the power to choose what you allow and don't allow in your space (you gotta be the boss of your space). I wanted and needed to be happy consistently and most importantly, I deserved to be happy and so do you. I was tired of the uneasiness so I thought about what I wanted out of everything and I made my happiness a priority (something I still struggle with because I tend to feel guilty about putting myself before others sometimes but that's another blog for another day lol). So I challenge you to ask yourself this question, "What do I want?" Write it down, make it plain... to yourself first then to others. Set standards and live by them. Let me know how it goes! Live well. Love hard . Laugh harder.
Xoxo,
Shonie
Good job Lashon! Great message again
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