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You Hurt Me AND You Want To Tell Me How To Feel About It? WTDTA?

You Hurt Me AND You Want To Tell Me How To Feel About It? WTDTA?


Hello my loves!! *inserts kissy face emoji* I always miss writing so…I’ve missed you!! I hope all is well in your world and if it isn’t, I pray it gets better. Let me get right to it. Have you ever been disappointed or hurt by someone and then told by the VERY SAME PERSON how to react or respond?? I know I have and I’m pretty sure you have too. Isn’t it irritating? Through observing and talking with other people, I’ve realized that people don’t always get to express their feelings or emotions (in a healthy way of course) because someone else is telling them how to feel. Let me give you all a quick example:
I have a friend who was recently hurt by one of her close family members. She discovered that her family member had been deceitful and untrustworthy. She was very disappointed and disturbed by what happened. When she talked to the family member and expressed her hurt, the family member stated that it wasn’t a big deal and that she shouldn’t be upset about it.
Now, don’t get me wrong, we have people that blow things out of proportion but this is a case about lies and deceit. There was some deep hurt taking place here. Was it right for my friend’s family member to basically tell her to shrug it off?? I don’t think so. You don’t get to hurt me then tell me how to respond to it.

Even when dealing with relationships. If your man/woman hurts you, I'm pretty sure you wouldn't want them to tell you that you shouldn't be upset about it (even though I'm sure it happens!! It has happened to me! *rolls eyes*). Lol ahahaha that's a story for another day honey! Ok back to the blog ↓

When someone comes to us and lets us know that they’re hurt by something WE did – and you KNOW that you’ve hurt them…because you know when you’ve done something- we should hear what the other person has to say and apologize. We shouldn’t tell them how they should or shouldn’t feel. That’s not our place. Our only place in this matter would be to see about making the situation better.

So, no more telling others how to feel or react when we’ve hurt them. Got it?! Good! I hope you all continue to grow with me! Until next time, Live well. Love hard. Laugh harder.

XOXO,
Shonie


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