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Could it be ME?!

Ever felt like, "I'm always arguing with so and so" or "Every time I get near her/him, I just get angry and can't control my attitude". I used to wonder why I was always "going off" on someone. Was I really THAT angry? Was I really telling it like it was? My excuse was always, " Oh, Honey, they NEEDED to be told! They were asking for it!" I later realized that I was just acting off of emotion and not being very wise. I came across a bible verse Proverbs 10:19 When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise. I wanted to be wise! lol There are going to be times where we feel angry or upset and want to release those emotions by saying a lot of words. Whenever I feel that I am about to get to that point there are two steps that I take to help me to focus on the bigger picture 1. I take a deep breath and close my eyes ( may sound cliche' but it works, you'll see in later posts how important breathing is!) 2. I say to myself, "This is only temporary, it will not last forever" ( I sometimes have to repeat this several times lol) Realizing that what is angering you right then at the moment is temporary, is very powerful and the key to getting past it. Sometimes we focus too much on the issue rather than focus on how we were feeling before we became angry/upset and how we CAN feel after we get pass these emotions. Learning to control my tongue was not easy and I still struggle, however, I am learning that silence is powerful. It can speak your disapproval louder than any words can! We always want to put our best foot forward (don't we? YES!), holding your tongue may not be easy but it is necessary. We have to realize that it is not always the other person, sometimes it's US! We have to take a good hard look at ourselves. If we want to become better people, we have to do the work! So the next time you find yourself becoming angry/upset and your mind is going and your tongue starts to feel like its about to have a mind of its own; just breathe...it's only temporary!


Xo,
Shonie

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