Major Love, Volume I

Hello my loves!! Today I want to talk about relationships. You know, love/romantic relationships. Aren't they fun?! Um, yeah!! Well, I believe that fun is one of the main requirements. The beginning of a relationship can be tricky. There's so much to learn...so much to feel. *Sigh* Today I wanted to focus on communication. Side note: I believe communication is VITAL, it can mean life OR death for a relationship. Alright, so communication is the key that will set the tone of the relationship. There is a real art to this communicating thing. Most times we don't know how to talk to one another to effectively communicate what we think or how we feel. I found this guideline to be very helpful to help me communicate or talk things out... 1. Only ONE person talks at a time. (No interrupting, can't hear the other person talk if you are) 2. Really listen to the person speaking, when they finish you say, "So, what I'm hearing you say is...". (This lets them know that you were listening and that you are attempting to understand them.) 3. Don't talk forever! Remember, the other person has something to say too! (I had a real problem with this! I was all like, Well, what if I'm not finished?! Lol too much talking, Shonie!) Try to limit your time talking to about 5-7 mins that way it'll seem like a real dialoge is taking place. 4. SWITCH! Now it's the other person's turn to talk! Continue following those steps until you've reached a conclusion. It's also important to remember that what the other person is saying is really what they're thinking/feeling. Try to understand rather than combat. Yes, you won't agree on everything and sometimes you'll have to agree to disagree. All that matters is that you and your love feel heard. It's validating. So, take some time to listen and communicate. It takes hard work but, it's worth it.

Xo,
Shonie

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