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Is He Into You or Nah?

Hello my loves!! How have you been? I hope you’ve been well!! I’ve missed writing you all. I’ve been super busy!! (As always) Anywho! Over the past few weeks, I’ve had several conversations with different people about relationships. I guess when you’re in your 20’s this is one of the top 10 topics of conversation…idk. Well, I guess I would know because I’m 25 and this seems to be what most of my friends want to discuss. They’re either looking for love or trying to figure out if their current relationships are ones that will last. I’ve had a few of my friend girls come to me for advice on some brand new relationships that they were in. Now, I believe that the beginning of a relationship is very important and there are a few key things that you should pay attention to. I came up with a list of a few things that I think will help you determine if He’s Into You or Nah lol!
1.    Does he genuinely seem interested in getting to know you? The beginning of a relationship is for exploring. Is he trying to find out your likes or dislikes or does it seem like he has his own agenda and wants you to just basically be in awe of him, listening to him go on and on about his accomplishments etc.? (if so, run)
2.    Does he introduce you to his friends/family/associates? Because you guys should be going OUT of course.(if you’re not, consider leaving this one alone) Let’s just say that you’re out at dinner and someone he knows comes by your table to say hi…does he introduce you or act like you’re not there? It’s ok if he introduces you only by your name, relax, there will be plenty of time for labels later.
3.    Does he make time for you? Now, this is important. Someone who makes time for you is really interested in you. Does he text/call you asking if you’re busy or if you have plans because he wants to get together or are you always the one making plans for the both of you? Believe me, being the one that makes the plans all the time gets old really fast. If you’re important to him enough, he’ll make time. PERIOD.
4.    Is it easy for you to talk to him about anything? This is also important because good communication lays a health foundation! Do you find that your conversations flow and that he’s actually listening to you when you speak? (because I just recently found out that they DO indeed listen lol only if they want to, however) Or is it hard to talk to him because he seems uninterested in what you have to say?
5.    Lastly, what do you feel when you’re around him? Listening to your body is so important. It’s a tool that we sometimes take for granted. Are you excited when you’re around him or are you nervous or uneasy? (Excitement is good, it means that you’re happy to be in his presence, just make sure that the feeling is reciprocated)  Do you feel safe physically and emotionally when you’re in his presence? ( It’s important to feel safe with him because emotional abuse is just as damaging as physical abuse)
So my loves, the beginning of a relationship can basically tell you a lot about the person you’re with. If you find that he’s not into you then let it go before you get tangled in the web of emotions and feelings (you’ll end up staying way longer than you need to). Well, until next time! Live well. Love hard. Laugh harder!

XOXO,

Shonie

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