Hello my loves!! How have you been? Me? I’m doing
pretty well! Been doing a lot of traveling and stuff. I hope you’ve been
enjoying your summer. If not, there’s plenty of time to do something about it!
Have you ever heard someone say, “I’m not playing
around. The next person I date…I’m going to marry!” Or have you said this
yourself? I’ve heard several people say this and I always wondered if this was
something that they were actually going to do. Like, the very next person they
date…they were going to marry…hmmm. Now, there’s nothing wrong with “dating with
a purpose”. I believe that goals and plans for relationships are completely
healthy and sometimes (most of the time) needed. But what happens when the next
person you date isn’t the person that you’re supposed to marry. And you feel
like you may have explored all of your options. Or you feel like you’re getting
“too old” for this dating game and need to make a decision soon. Do you still
marry them anyway because you feel like you’ve invested time and have already said that you would? Gotta keep your
word huh? So, you get married and soon after you realize that you’ve made a
huge mistake!! Oh, no! What to do?!
Well…fortunately for some, that hasn’t happened yet so let’s rewind. Let’s go
back to the part when the statement, “The next person I date, I’m going to
marry!” was said. Is that really what you want? Let’s think about this for a
second. Dating is all about learning and experiencing. I believe that every
relationship that you have can be learned from, no matter how awful you make
think it was. You won’t know what you like and what you don’t like until you
experience it (or if you’re really smart lol you can learn from watching
others). Now who knows, maybe the next person that you date WILL indeed be the
one that you marry but if you begin to see the signs that this person is not
for you…leave. Relationships that lead to marriage take time. So don’t rush
things that take time to grow. Relationships and dating are two different
things. Dating leads to the relationship and the relationship leads to
marriage. Dating is the “getting to know one another” process and relationships
are the “courtship” (I’m going to write a blog about this topic here! Lol). So
relax, just take your time. Don’t put so much pressure on yourself…you have
enough going on already. Things will happen when it’s supposed to happen.
Until, next time… Live well. Love hard. Laugh harder!
XOXO,
Shonie
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