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The Next Person I Date I'm Going To Marry!!

Hello my loves!! How have you been? Me? I’m doing pretty well! Been doing a lot of traveling and stuff. I hope you’ve been enjoying your summer. If not, there’s plenty of time to do something about it!
Have you ever heard someone say, “I’m not playing around. The next person I date…I’m going to marry!” Or have you said this yourself? I’ve heard several people say this and I always wondered if this was something that they were actually going to do. Like, the very next person they date…they were going to marry…hmmm. Now, there’s nothing wrong with “dating with a purpose”. I believe that goals and plans for relationships are completely healthy and sometimes (most of the time) needed. But what happens when the next person you date isn’t the person that you’re supposed to marry. And you feel like you may have explored all of your options. Or you feel like you’re getting “too old” for this dating game and need to make a decision soon. Do you still marry them anyway because you feel like you’ve invested time and have already said that you would? Gotta keep your word huh? So, you get married and soon after you realize that you’ve made a huge mistake!!  Oh, no! What to do?! Well…fortunately for some, that hasn’t happened yet so let’s rewind. Let’s go back to the part when the statement, “The next person I date, I’m going to marry!” was said. Is that really what you want? Let’s think about this for a second. Dating is all about learning and experiencing. I believe that every relationship that you have can be learned from, no matter how awful you make think it was. You won’t know what you like and what you don’t like until you experience it (or if you’re really smart lol you can learn from watching others). Now who knows, maybe the next person that you date WILL indeed be the one that you marry but if you begin to see the signs that this person is not for you…leave. Relationships that lead to marriage take time. So don’t rush things that take time to grow. Relationships and dating are two different things. Dating leads to the relationship and the relationship leads to marriage. Dating is the “getting to know one another” process and relationships are the “courtship” (I’m going to write a blog about this topic here! Lol). So relax, just take your time. Don’t put so much pressure on yourself…you have enough going on already. Things will happen when it’s supposed to happen. Until, next time… Live well. Love hard. Laugh harder!

XOXO,

Shonie

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