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You Hurt Me AND You Want To Tell Me How To Feel About It? WTDTA?

You Hurt Me AND You Want To Tell Me How To Feel About It? WTDTA? Hello my loves!! *inserts kissy face emoji* I always miss writing so…I’ve missed you!! I hope all is well in your world and if it isn’t, I pray it gets better. Let me get right to it. Have you ever been disappointed or hurt by someone and then told by the VERY SAME PERSON how to react or respond?? I know I have and I’m pretty sure you have too. Isn’t it irritating? Through observing and talking with other people, I’ve realized that people don’t always get to express their feelings or emotions (in a healthy way of course) because someone else is telling them how to feel. Let me give you all a quick example: I have a friend who was recently hurt by one of her close family members. She discovered that her family member had been deceitful and untrustworthy. She was very disappointed and disturbed by what happened. When she talked to the family member and expressed her hurt, the family member stated that it wasn
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Hi! My name is: Procrastination!

Hello my loves!! How have y’all been?! OMG!! Got so much to talk about and so much on my mind that I need to get out! So, I know I’ve been M.I.A. for a while and let me tell you why. I’m. A. PROCRASTINATOR!! Ugh!! Sometimes I get so frustrated with myself because of it. I always say what I’m “going” to do when it comes to blogging and vlogging but I rarely actually ever put action behind it. Isn’t that something? I love to vlog and blog but I tend to make excuses as to why I'm not doing it. I would say,” I’ll do it later or tomorrow”. I would tell my friends that I would vlog and blog more often but would never get around to it. I would go to work every day and then come home and work on a few projects and neglect my creative side. For a while, 2 years actually, I found myself saying, “Oh, I’m definitely going to make time to write this or vlog that”. I was starting to sing that same old, “I’ll get to it” song in my head when it came to me blogging and vlogging. It wasn’t until re
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The Next Person I Date I'm Going To Marry!!

Hello my loves!! How have you been? Me? I’m doing pretty well! Been doing a lot of traveling and stuff. I hope you’ve been enjoying your summer. If not, there’s plenty of time to do something about it! Have you ever heard someone say, “I’m not playing around. The next person I date…I’m going to marry!” Or have you said this yourself? I’ve heard several people say this and I always wondered if this was something that they were actually going to do. Like, the very next person they date…they were going to marry…hmmm. Now, there’s nothing wrong with “dating with a purpose”. I believe that goals and plans for relationships are completely healthy and sometimes (most of the time) needed. But what happens when the next person you date isn’t the person that you’re supposed to marry. And you feel like you may have explored all of your options. Or you feel like you’re getting “too old” for this dating game and need to make a decision soon. Do you still marry them anyway because you feel like y
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Is He Into You or Nah?

Hello my loves!! How have you been? I hope you’ve been well!! I’ve missed writing you all. I’ve been super busy!! (As always) Anywho! Over the past few weeks, I’ve had several conversations with different people about relationships. I guess when you’re in your 20’s this is one of the top 10 topics of conversation…idk. Well, I guess I would know because I’m 25 and this seems to be what most of my friends want to discuss. They’re either looking for love or trying to figure out if their current relationships are ones that will last. I’ve had a few of my friend girls come to me for advice on some brand new relationships that they were in. Now, I believe that the beginning of a relationship is very important and there are a few key things that you should pay attention to. I came up with a list of a few things that I think will help you determine if He’s Into You or Nah lol! 1.     Does he genuinely seem interested in getting to know you? The beginning of a relationship is for exploring.
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Oh, September...

Hello my loves!! How have y'all been? I hope everything has been going well! I've been busy, school has started and I'm also doing internship this semester so I've been doing some running around lol. I'm also working on a project that I can't wait to share with y'all! September is one of my favorite months because I love the feel of the weather outside while it's transitioning from summer to fall. Here in the south, September is not too cool and its still warm enough for you to leave your jacket home and still get away with wearing sandals. September is also Sickle Cell Awareness Month. Sickle Cell Disease  is an inherited blood disorder that affects the red blood cells. This disease causes the red blood cells  to take the form of a sickle (a farming tool). These sickle shaped blood cells can cause clots and decreased oxygen to the body, and this can cause major harm.  This disease mostly affects individuals of African descent (and other cultures) and
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What you say?!

Hello my loves! How are y'all doing? I hope that you've been working on yourselves! Practice makes perfect! Well not perfect, let's just say practice helps you get better. Have you ever listened to yourself? I mean really listen to what you say and how you feel after you've said it?  Did you feel accomplished, empowered, or icky? I came across this quote on twitter, "If you really want to understand your secret/silent thoughts,  pay attention to what comes out of your mouth, thought-word-deed is the process." I believe that this quote came from my fav,  Iyanla Vanzant.  This quote caused me to think...if I really want to know my true intentions behind anything that I did,  I needed to pay attention to what came out of my mouth, because what comes out of my mouth is what I've been thinking. Sometimes we (humans) like to think that we are actually kinder and more authentic that what we truly are and this is because we don't experience ourselves. I'm
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What do you want?!

Hey my loves!! How are you?! :-) I hope you're doing well! I wanted to ask you a question,  kinda make you think for a moment.... what do you want? What do you want out of life,  relationships,  love,  yourself,  others? What do you want? Iyanla Vanzant (one of my favorites) wrote,  "Very often,  we only have chaos in our lives because we don't know what we want. By default,  uncertainty attracts uneasiness. " This statement was very powerful to me because it spoke to the uneasiness I was feeling at that present moment.  I did not know what I wanted... out of ANYTHING! I had a clue or an inkling but nothing solid. I needed to figure out what I wanted and make it plain, to myself and others. By me not knowing how to or what to do to figure out exactly what I wanted,  caused so much confusion in my life.  Unnecessary arguments and unnecessary headaches.  I had to take the time to sit down and figure out what I wanted.  Granted,  I'm still young and what I want may v
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